thoughts...

What is it in us as humans that desires and seeks approval from people around us? Why to some of us change to please... and then why do some of us remain so stuck in our ways that we make nobody around us happy?? Like... Conformity vs. non-conformity??

How does one finally find their identity independent of another human being? And what place does a person need to get to to be considered "whole" in Christ?? I hear that so often... we need to be whole in God before we identify ourselves with another... well, if that is the case then I will never be able to identify myself with another due to the fact that I am a sinner, and I will not be whole in Christ until I am present with Him! So when can a person be content with who they are when they are in constant change... for better or for worse. It kills me to see people selling themselves short to please another for vain purposes (speakin to the choir here)... Is their something wrong with changing circumstances?? I think it would depend on the honest motive behind the action.

Then on the flip side, how do you accept a person as they are... And once the relationship has reached a mature enough position to where you can encourage them to change for the better?? And still not be the dictator as to what the better is for them... But just to encourage them to be in forward motion... I mean, yes, you will accept them as they are, but what about when they change... And what about when we change? Both become vulnerable to the other as to whether or not the change will be accepted...

then we have unconditional love... And the question as to if humans can even comprehend this thought. Yes, it is an act of a supernatural God... But is it always limited with humans? What is the breaking point? Is it a trait or a choice?

A couple married for 50+ years... AMAZING right? Some people can't even imagine spending that much time with one person... Yet it is one of the most admirable things on this planet (bias?? Maybe)... Marriage is a very very very important decision... to those who have the choice to do so. The Bible talks about a woman setting the atmostphere of the home... "it is better for a man to sit at the corner of his roof top then to live with a corralsome (sp?) wife"... (paraphrased from Proverbs somthin... work with me) ... therefore a woman is a pretty big mood setter in the house... her words can be pleasant or harsh... one should NEVER go into a marriage with divorce being an option... ever. Thus the importance of understanding oneself and ones spouse. Not only is one getting a roomie, but a lifetime mate who will hopefully be their best friend for the remainder of their lives! AND ITS A WONDERFUL THING!!

Anyways... just thoughts being writen... peace, love, and chicken grease!